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The break down of  "Accepting people for who they are".. It's a vice versa thing! Happy December everyone!!! A few more days to new year, God has been amazing this year. Next year would be better IJN.  A little over 20 years of my life, I've learnt that one of the hardest thing to do is "Accepting people for who they are" ..  I've lived with people and I've had different types of friends and many times adjusting to someone's lifestyle would just be hard for you because you either love them but can't cope with their lifestyle or you love them and don't wanna lose them.  I have many people around that just piss me off daily because of how they behave but would I send everyone away? No. You have to help somepeople change too. I've learnt in a very hard way to accept people for who they are but that's only when they accept me for who I am too and that means you wouldn't do things I don't like and I wouldn't

Growing up, I use to be really reserved at first and cry for everything but when I got to the age 14 downwards, I became a very different person, ild change it for anyone and just get angry. But now I'm different again.. I still love to be blunt but it's reducing .. It's just called growing up!  The fact that somepeople can flare up at just the slightest thing can just make me so amazed, I love to flare up too and tell you off bluntly but it has kept me in trouble and also helped me in some ways but recently I noticed that just flaring up at everything is stupid. Very stupid.  I've been keeping quiet for things I know I normally wouldn't take and one thing in me is calling me mumu but I know it's just part of growing up. Over looking things ... Extremely necessary, sometimes you have to just say somethings to somepeople no matter how bad but how you put it goes a long way. Some might still get what you mean but some would still misunderstand so just

Hello beautiful people .. So I've been thinking of this topic for a while, and luckily for me one of my friends (very close and good friend) got engaged today. Bridesmaid duties #Yipeeeee lol! She is 22 and she is done with both bachelors and Nysc just remaining masters. I used it as my dp, only for people to message me and say it's too early.  Hmmmm... Me I don't use to like all those too early marriage o because you don't even have enough time to see the real world sef but some people don't mind. Speaking to her mum, her mum is very happy and ready to start planning the marriage as soon as possible. She says there's no age for marriage, once you've found the right person and you are done with the basic things you are good to go.  I showed another big Aunty of mine (also a mum) the convo and she said its nonsense. That 22 is still too young to be engaged, that she doesn't really know things yet and she's not as matured as she thinks she

Hello beautiful people! Someone needs for advice, just one person can make a difference so put yourself in her shoes and tell her what you think or send it to me personally, I'ld get it across to her.  Hmmmmmmm! When I got this I starred for a while because I'm not a relationship expert but I guess people would share how they feel about this. Below is what was sent to me by a lady yesterday morning.  " So I met the so-close-to-perfect man just a while back. I mean the one that opens doors for you, carries your bag as you take a stroll down the street, puts on your shoes for you, brushes your hair for you; I mean the all round good man. But you know what they say, no one is entirely perfect. Rewind to the wooing days, I clearly told him I am a virgin with no intention of having sexual intercourse anytime soon, preferably till marriage. My man was happy! In his words, "so I'll be the one launching you till forever". Fast forward to a month after, thin

Last day of the month?  Can't believe November is here already😱, this year is way too fast.. Looking back and I'm happy I achieved somethings most especially my first book, now looking up to God almighty to make next year more amazing for me. Amen. I've always liked professional jobs to be honest.. I hardly see myself as a handiwork person though I'm a very fast learner when it comes to handiwork and I know a few of them also but I think the best thing I love to do is WRITING.  It just brings joy to my heart, it's amazing that how much I write or chat with anyone, when you meet me in person I'm a little bit more reserved than I type lol .. I can express my self better through writing. I just find joy in writing anything I'm interested in.  I've had people tell me, look for something else to do at least don't just have your degree for nothing.. Try to plan on working with it . Well, I don't see myself really working with my degree

Most people love when their guy is older even if it's months they are okay with it but does it really matter lol?  I have many people I talk to daily so we obviously discuss different issues. Recently my friend (older than me with almost 4 years) was telling me that her partner is a year younger than her and she told her mum and her mum was against it immediately lol all these parents sef, I remember the day I said I didn't mind and my aunt shouted and said so you want someone that is your younger brothers age mate to climb you or something like that lol.  Left to me age doesn't matter but I wouldn't like to date someone I'm older than to be honest .. Why?  Just because 60% of ladies are more mature than guys. Sometimes you are talking to a guy that is your age mate and you can't believe what is coming out of his mouth. Too bad. But then there are so guys that you are older than just a few months not even up to a year or even a year and they act so m

Lately I've been doing some personal check on myself. I was talking to my siblings the other day and they go "You go out of your way for people too much".. "You like making people feel too important" they were emphasizing on it (especially my brother)  .. It really got to me because they were giving examples but the good thing is I know when and where to draw the line.  I really want to know if we have people that have some of these my Features lol because my siblings don't have it, just me. The thing about me is that Im really nice when I like you(that I know) but I hardly like people like that o sure my people know. If I don't like you.. I can't hide it you just have to notice, I don't know how to hide my feelings I just say it the way it comes to my mind that's why sometimes I wonder how people can't say their mind  .. One day my mum told me my bluntness would put me in trouble if I'm not careful lol (God forbid) ..I have

Hello beautiful people.  I really dislike topics like this but someone asked me this week and she said she really wants me to write about my view, first of all, I can't change anyone's mind so ild just go with the policy I follow.  Welllllll, in this 21st century, it doesn't matter o! Before, I heard on your wedding night they would put white cloth to see if blood would come out and all those stuff but now, no body really checks those things but coming back to your personal self.  Now, I'm not going to use myself so I don't either sound too bad or too perfect, ild use me advising my daughter. Don't you think your partner of many years (Later your husband) would be extremely proud of you when he finds out he is the first man doing it?   Though I don't think anyone should be defined by that because some virgins don't have any sense, just virgin for mouth but no character and also some didn't mean to do it but circumstances around.. but

So I'm the kind of person that actually has a free mind, I'ld tell you how I feel straight up without hiding and yes if I tell someone else what you did to me I don't see it as snitching because I can tell you the same thing infront of you without changing anything. Also I have this problem lol I love to "read meaning to things" .. Though it's good sometimes but sometimes it's extremely bad. So I have this friend. She's very very free, she's my only friend I've never fought with. She doesn't care about many things and she's very accommodating. So she was meant to help me do something but I kind of started pressurizing her to help me do it immediately and she started putting up one very nasty attitude and like I said I read meaning to things so me I just made up my mind that if I ask her again and she gives me attitude, that's it, I was very surprised because she's not like that but I couldn't bare the attitude. 

We live in a world that if you say you are a virgin when your friends are talking.. You would turn to a laughing stock. We live in a world that if there's a Afro pop concert and a church program and you end up going to the church program .. Your friends would make jest of you. We live in a world that our bible forever remains dusty while we wipe the screen of our phones on our chest every time we are using our phone. Phone is now more important than bible. We live in a world that people only go to church to show their nice dress,heels and makeup but come out without receiving a single blessing because they didn't even hear what the man of God said.. They just went to show off. We live in a world that when you are not married before 30, you are not a complete woman. We live in a world that when you get married and you can't give birth for a few years, you are barren. Forgetting that God can test anyone's faith and that everyone needs to build their te

Hello everyone..  Thank you for always reading, it's not easy to read lol! It's only because I love writing but the aim of it all is to touch lives no matter how young/old/rich/poor etc you are, even if it's one person that reads this blog and feels inspired, that's enough for me.. Basically, I want to try to touch lives the little way I can in the nearest future. Support orphanage homes, speaking to depressed people etc. The day I decided to open a blog was the day I read one random blog that lifted my spirit. I'm telling you that you can't know what people are going through till you get the chance to speak with them, somepeople are going through different kind of depression, abuse, humiliation.. Too many things. Then I decided that if I start, I can actually share part of what I've learnt in my life or learnt from other people just so people that get to read don't feel they are alone because until you hear what's bothering other people,

 Faith is the confidence that what we hope for will actually happen. I see this topic raised as a religious topic because God is really amazing! When I say amazing I mean AH-MAI-ZING! Over the week, I was at the Holy Ghost congress , spiritually. I listened to what Pastor Adeboye said, it made me so amazed that indeed God works! He gave many examples about having faith when you need something from God because faith is stronger than you think. He said there was a woman, she was already looking half dead, the doctors have already told her that she wouldn't make it and she would die within a few days, he said she told her daughters " take me to the church" her daughter replied and told her mummy no one is in church, the pastor isn't around today, she said "God is there, just take me there" .. After they've spent a lot of money on healing etc when she got into the church, no one was there, she told them to take her to the alter, and she held the pilla

I would forever feel overwhelmed about July 17th 2016!!!! My book launch was a huge success and I'm sure from the pictures you could tell. This topic is something I've always had in mind, since high school till now.. I think as human beings we tend to expect a lot from people forgetting they don't have the same heart as us or that we weren't raised the same way. Several things have happened to me recently and even people around me (obviously as a story teller, I've heard different stories from people) .. I'm the kind of person that erm... I wouldn't say I expect from people to be honest because I tell my mum everytime that people can leave you anytime but I tend to trust people a lot which affects me most times. I've made several decisions recently that's really helping to be honest. The few key points I'm listing Would definetly help you too.. Tho it would take a little while for people that have known me to adjust because I'm adjusting

I feel so overwhelmed to finally say i have finally launched my book on 17th of july 2016. I was extremely happy to have my family, friends etc around. It was really successful and i am very sure you can tell from the pictures. I want to say a very big thank you to God for everything because he started it, My awesome parents and siblings for their love and unending support, my family and friends. You are loved. To all my mummies and daddies that came around, i truly appreciate you and also to those that didnt come but still sent me something to launch the book out of their church mind. it means alot and i know this is just the beginning IJN. i have been getting little feedbacks but i hope to get more, like i said on the book launch day, its a book for everyone and i made it really relatable. Gender Equality Killing the dreams of your kids Discrimination Anger Domestic violence Child abuse its just basically about social vices and i am very sure you all would en