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Drop the pride and ask!!!



So I'm the kind of person that actually has a free mind, I'ld tell you how I feel straight up without hiding and yes if I tell someone else what you did to me I don't see it as snitching because I can tell you the same thing infront of you without changing anything.
Also I have this problem lol I love to "read meaning to things" .. Though it's good sometimes but sometimes it's extremely bad.

So I have this friend. She's very very free, she's my only friend I've never fought with. She doesn't care about many things and she's very accommodating. So she was meant to help me do something but I kind of started pressurizing her to help me do it immediately and she started putting up one very nasty attitude and like I said I read meaning to things so me I just made up my mind that if I ask her again and she gives me attitude, that's it, I was very surprised because she's not like that but I couldn't bare the attitude. 
Fortunately for me, the next week was my birthday then my book launch so I just cut the whole convo because she was really giving me a very bad atitude, only for me to see her call on my birthday .. I was shocked. We spoke but I wasn't that free. My book launch came, she didn't come and she didn't bother to apologize for not coming. 
From then me I just made up my mind that I'm not going to disturb anybody mehn, too many people are even dying to be your friend so what's the use of stressing over one person? 
Over 2 months and we both didn't talk, I felt extremely bothered. I have a thick skin but I'm also very emotional and I easily listen to sorry. I decided to message her today.. As a writer I sent a longggg message lol! 
She then called and the first thing she said was "Dami I didn't even know u would pick my call but I'm very sorry"..
Me that I was angry I just said okay no problem then she explained why she did like that. This life people are going through many things o, let's not just ignore our friends because they are doing somehow, please still check back. She has been so depressed and sad so I just had to talk to her about it .. Very emotional conversation. 

I just learnt that sometimes pride is not good, I had pride that's why I was saying I wouldn't talk to her after the atitude but she was going through a very tough phase, I just thank God I contacted her and I could help her resolve it a little. 
Let's keep praying for our friends. We don't know what anyone is going through. May God keep helping us.
With love - DamStar ❤️

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  1. Unknown26 September 2016 at 21:47

    Amen !❤️

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  2. Pweetyblack26 September 2016 at 22:45

    It is well,people go thru a lot that they don't want to share,majority gets thru life with the grace of God,don't stay mad at people until u hear there story.

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