Independent woman!

I don't blog on Sunday's but I had to just put up this story and I want it to get to as many people as possible so because of that, there wouldn't be any story up until upper week :).  

Every day of my life since have been growing into a woman, I have always imagined myself as a very strong and independent woman. I don't like depending on people at all, I hate it! If you ask my parents am sure they would tell you, i just love to do things on my own because that brings no dissappointment.. Parents dissappoint, friends dissappoint, even partners and siblings dissappoint the only person that doesn't dissappoint is God and I know he has my back. Growing up has shown me so many things and how people can be, it's even the ones that you really love deeply that start showing you that you don't really mean anything to them, some wouldn't even want to talk to you because you probably forgot to message or something and it's even worse because you even ask people that you can confide in for things and then they just either stop talking to you or they start looking at you like you don't have anything, when they could easily say they don't have or they can't give you . (One of the reasons I hate asking people for things)

As I write this, am just thinking, I use to tell my mum that I don't ever ever want to depend on my husband for anything that has to do with my personal life, it's okay for him to pay my kids fees and give me money to take care of them but I want to have my own!!! My mum would reply me with "that means you don't want to be submissive" .. In my mind am just like that's bullshit for me because I have seen situations where by mothers ask their husbands for things and it becomes a big issue, I go to my friends house very well and I know it happens a lot everywhere. 

Why can't I strive to have my own? Why do people especially Africans believe that you must depend on your husband for everything? Somepeople just want to be rich and be very lazy with their duties. By the special grace of God I would have my own, I would even be able to take care of my kids because even when your husband starts to see that you are depending on him for everything he just starts taking you for granted, obviously nobody wants a liability as a wife but if you are hardworking and committed to your work he can't say shit the only thing he would do is to cheat on you and in this 21st century you have to pray because all This guys ehn ..  I don't pray my husband cheats on me, I don't pray to marry someone that is not well to do and I don't even ever in my life pray to marry someone that would tell me not to work! For what reason Pls? Why should a man tell his wife not to work? It's okay if the lady says it herself abi ewo wa Ni ti okunrin ni be?

I have seen several situations where by the husband passes on or doesn't have a job any more then everything goes back to square one when they both know that if the woman was working it wouldn't have been that bad! 

Guess what inspired this topic today? Linda ikeji's house. 

A woman bought over 500million naira house on her own without the support of a man? It's not about the money now because fortune can come at anytime. It's about her passion and drive for success !! Please you don't have to marry a billionaire to have what you want! I seriously think of how someone would go and open her legs just for money? God forbid. Some ppl don't wanna do it but the situation in this Nigeria can push some ppl but I pray God wouldn't let us fall into such category and also I pray God wouldn't stop helping us. 

 So many of my friends have the mentality of getting married to rich men because they don't wanna work but you know what? They are still gonna pay for it.  Work for what you want! I am not saying am crazy about the money no am not, am saying she did it from her sweat with only God! I don't even want to know how she got the money all I know is that she didn't steal like some ridiculous politicians, she worked for it just as a simple celebrity blogger! 

At times I don't like the way she carries some news but at the other hand she's also doing what she wants which is her passion! 

Personally I would have loved her to  wait a little till when shes about to get marry before buying such because men are very crazy at times, some would be avoiding her because they think she would control them and some would be wanting her because she has money. But who knows maybe she's planning to get married already? And also that doesn't still matter, no matter where you are in this world, no matter your situation your husband is your husband! No one can settle with your own husband and have peace, so she would get married at her own time. Because if God can do that for her how much more husband? Lol

Honestly speaking I am not desperate, Pls pls don't get me wrong, if you know me well you just know I want to make it on my own to be very successful without the help of any man, I just look at some of my friends they go "my boyfriend said he would buy this for me and buy that for me", I mean it's a very good thing for your partner to shower Richies on you but don't be depending on it. 

Ladies stand up! Do your own thing! Don't depend on any damn man! I just look when I hear "okunrin lo Lori" like a man is the head, who said? Why are women so under rated? I wouldn't fall into that category in Jesus name, I don't want to be ridiculously rich, I want to be able to point at something and say it's from my sweat and Gods help not any body's help!! I would respect my husband in future, and be submissive but I must work hard for my own and have something to fall back on rather than siting and letting one "man" or anyone to come and be doing everything for me! 

This topic is for single ladies mostly, you still have time to check your race and reset your steps so that you can have your own thing, don't depend on marrying a rich man, sometimes it's the woman that even supports the man. With the help of God every lady out there, working on building her future for the betterment of herself and kids and husband, may God crown your efforts with sucess. Don't under rate yourself, if it's your passion, go for ittttttttt! So help us God!

Pls don't get me wrong, I am not saying a woman should go and work and come back at night no! Am saying don't say any woman shouldn't work, it's fine if she says it herself, that's her cup of tea but no man should tell a woman not to work because of the kids, when the child starts school and after day care at least the mother should be back like 4/5 pm that's what I mean. Am not saying go and over work as a woman o! Just follow your dreams and aim for good things and one thing is don't be crazy about fortune, it can come and go, just make sure you invest and have your own personal belonging.  

Please share with any female out there, we can make it on our own too! Thank you! 

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