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The break down of  "Accepting people for who they are".. It's a vice versa thing!

Happy December everyone!!! A few more days to new year, God has been amazing this year. Next year would be better IJN. 

A little over 20 years of my life, I've learnt that one of the hardest thing to do is "Accepting people for who they are" .. 
I've lived with people and I've had different types of friends and many times adjusting to someone's lifestyle would just be hard for you because you either love them but can't cope with their lifestyle or you love them and don't wanna lose them. 

I have many people around that just piss me off daily because of how they behave but would I send everyone away? No. You have to help somepeople change too. I've learnt in a very hard way to accept people for who they are but that's only when they accept me for who I am too and that means you wouldn't do things I don't like and I wouldn't do things you don't like too! 

As human beings we are very different people, some people would do somethings and you are wondering how it happened because you can never do it but what is right to me might be wrong to you. We have to learn and try to accept people for who they are though we are human beings, no matter how we try to accept people for who they are we would still complain and it's normal but I feel personally you should study yourself and point out your personal issues, I know my personal issues.. My parents and siblings say it and my friends say it too so I'm trying to work on them but when you know your problem and you keep doing it without changing, it would hurt the people around you and that means they want to try to withstand your behavior which is also accepting you for who you are but you on the other you aren't trying to do the same back, it's not fair, you would lose true human beings through that.

I hate with a passion people that would read a long message from me and just say one word and lol unfortunately for me my sister is exactly like this. But I've learnt to just accept her for who she is so I wouldn't be getting angry and sometimes she knows I don't like it, she tends to be more into the conversation so she has a little more to say. 
Me on the other hand, I can stay in one place for a whole month without going out .. My friends got tired of calling me for things, they would plan right Infront of me without telling me about it because I wouldn't go so what's the point lol One time I came out of the gate and our gatemans friend said he didn't know I've been around because he hasn't seen me for weeks and my dad would Come and complain to me everytime but that's who I am, Ild try to change but the first thing they did was to accept me for who I am then I started going out small small when I started seeing the disadvantages, no matter what someone's bad side can't be covered for life, it would still affect them at a point in their life.. It's just life lol. 
But it would be unfair on their path if they accepted me for who I am and I still don't change. 
The point of everything is, once you know your problem, those people around you that have accepted you like that, start accepting them for who they are already, what they are complaining about, try to change and I believe this world would be a better place. 
Don't do what you can't take, this thing is a vice versa thing. If I know you don't like something, I wouldn't do it and you on the other hand don't do what I don't like too that's another way of accepting me for who I am. 

Wishing everyone a beautiful December ahead! 

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