How to live your life without stress

I would forever feel overwhelmed about July 17th 2016!!!! My book launch was a huge success and I'm sure from the pictures you could tell.
This topic is something I've always had in mind, since high school till now.. I think as human beings we tend to expect a lot from people forgetting they don't have the same heart as us or that we weren't raised the same way.

Several things have happened to me recently and even people around me (obviously as a story teller, I've heard different stories from people) .. I'm the kind of person that erm... I wouldn't say I expect from people to be honest because I tell my mum everytime that people can leave you anytime but I tend to trust people a lot which affects me most times.
I've made several decisions recently that's really helping to be honest. The few key points I'm listing Would definetly help you too.. Tho it would take a little while for people that have known me to adjust because I'm adjusting too.. You can never be perfect.

If you want to live your life without stress,

1.  Stay away from negative people pls. Stay away from people that would never talk about for success only your problem, stay away from them. Cut them off.
1b. Never tell others your idea just like that. It would turn to a plan and they would just change when you get to the middle of the line then you obviously become the bad one ;).

2. Always learn to apologize first (it might be hard but try to) .. Apology goes a long way. Even if the person wouldn't accept immediately, trust me later when they think of the whole situation they would feel like fools because you've done your part anyway.

3. Never ever expect anything from anyone. I repeat ANYONE! I don't mean anything like money I mean like care or attention or expect them to treat you how you treat them. No don't do that. You would hurt yourself.

4. Don't carry Someone's problem on your head. Learn to help people.. Pray for them or advice them but don't inconvenience yourself because of someone's issue. You might be doing too much.. And they might not appreciate it and it would affect you very well.

5. Don't be too attached to anyone. Don't do this pls, only if it's your husband or a blood relative tho some friends are amazing, more than blood but only 5% out of 100% to be honest. Don't be too attached to the extent that they know you can't do without them and start treating you how they can't treat others. Be smart, don't be a fool..

6. Spend more time with people that pay attention to you. This is something that has helped me recently to be honest especially around my book launch time. There are always people you love and people that love you that you don't love them the way they love you etc. don't push those people away, they would even be the ones to be there for you when you need help to be very honest. Spend more time with your family, sometimes reduce your circle (Friends) that also helps some people.

7. Avoid people that talk about what they've done for you. Maybe something comes up and you are arguing, and they keep saying "I did this and that for you" kindly avoid them.

8. Learn to stay on your own lane. I'm telling you this is the toughest thing to do sometimes if you are the super friendly type but some times stay on your own and watch how things are moving. Watch the people that care about you and stay with them. Don't bug somebody, when they want to talk to you, they will.

9. When you are angry with someone learn to open up. It helps a lot sometimes because some people don't even know what they've done to be honest. They just see people acting up for no reasonable reason till the person opens up.

10. Pray to God to guide you and lead you to the right people because after all you can't live without people but you can live with the right people. The ones that care and love you unconditionally.


Above are the 10 things I'm trying to add to my life as I write this. I'm going to keep praying to God so I can practice what I'm preaching because it's not easy. Eleran ara ni gbogbo wa at the end. Never force yourself on anybody or any situation that doesn't need you. I hope this helps someone out there.

Please read and of course share lol! Thanks a lot !!
#DamStar 💞💯