The misconception in Africa ..... boils down to my tiwa savages story.

 Hey guys!

Really sorry for not posting, most of my friends message me about it but my laptop spoilt and I was being very lazy to post.

What I want to discuss today is the misconception in Africa. We (Africans) believe in so much irrelevant things to be honest, we have weird thoughts about things and it shouldn't be so. My focus today would be mostly about marriage.

Too much is expected from you, just too much. I would hear, getting married and having your baby 9 months after is the best. Well, that's for some people, everyone wouldn't like that, some want to enjoy their marriage and work more before any baby. In African home. After you get married, they wanna see your belly popping out even that month -_-

I watched one of the interviews kemi adetiba did with one of nigerias female comedian. She said she was married before but she had to leave, can't really remember why but what I figured from it is that, she was telling her mum how her husband cheats etc and her mum would say stay in your marriage, stay stay stay! Until her husband impregnated someone else. Then she left. Now she said her relationship with her mum isn't really like before again because it's amazing how it's some mothers that wouldn't want to understand that you can't force yourself to stay in a marriage that you are mentally affected by.

So this boils down to my#TiwaSavage's story.

Many of my friends know I am a crazy fan of tiwa savage. And with the whole drama they've asked me to speak about it. But how do u speak about 

something that isn't your business lol? ... welllll, I would say a little of what I personally feel and not because am a fan, but because there are 2 stories and I have to pick the important things from both sides to talk about. 

Marriage isn't something everyone should just be taking sides on to be very honest. As a woman (growing) I seriously feel for tiwa because abuse isn't only when your husband is beating you o, abuse comes in any form as far as It's affecting you.

I don't know where this thing am writing would get to so I don't want to be too opened about how I feel but I seriously pray for them to be honest. As much as I stay with her leaving the marriage I also wish they could resolve it amicably and try to get help for him, then come back after a while because coming back together immediately can cause something else. And why am saying this is because Jamil is still very very small. He isn't even one yet and his parents are about to be separated. It's not really fair on his path, so the only reason why I would wish they settle is because of Jamil. It's very hard for a female celeb to have kids for different men, I wish if she doesn't get back to him, she should just stay on her own and take care of Jamil but my mum says she's still too young to just stay without a man.

Everything she said isn't new, but the part that got to me was the witchcraft part and the miscarriage part. You don't drag other people's family in the mud because you want to make a point. It's unfair because the woman is old sef. And miscarriage is just a very painful thing, but I believe God did it all for a reason because anytime I check those pics she took in Jamaica I still feel so bad because that means she was pregnant again that time. It's better if she removed it herself than to have a miscarriage that the owner of the pregnancy wouldn't even care about. 

Finally, I wish Tiwa didn't say somethings, e.g cocaine because I see that's what some people want to use to get to her,  but what do you want a woman that has kept quiet for almost 2 years or more sef to do? Tiwa has never spoken about her family outside but I think she was just fed up and she poured everything out. Don't ever come and say she shouldn't have spoken, It's a blessing in disguise for her because if her husband didn't talk first she wouldn't have said anything and till now we would still be thinking she's Mrs Balogun -_-.

Finally I just pray for her and her husband. God would help them because no body knows how they both feel for each other, we are only judging from what we heard, I wish I wouldn't say anything about this but since I already spoke about violence in my book coming out in July. I just decided to share my opinion. But one thing is, don't ever force yourself to stay in an abusive relationship. Speak out or Leave because if anything should happen to you, the people forcing you to stay would still be alive anyway, be careful.

As for me, I would still stand with my Tiwa and love her unconditionally forever and ever, 100 yards of role model and a very strong woman at that. 

Thanks and God bless!