Recently I was thinking about somethings and I just stumbled on "strict mothers" .. There's absolutely nothing wrong with correcting your child, I as a person, am going to be a strict mum with what people around me tell me. But some mothers take it to the worst level that their kids would be extremely scared to share things with them most especially when it's dealing with the opposite sex which is really bad because they tend to make decisions themselves instead of asking their mothers for advice.
But how do you ask your mother if she's so strict and you are scared of her reaction ?
I was speaking to a very close friend of mine, she is in a serious relationship, so I was just like "have you told your mum" she said no o please, I don't want trouble blah blah in my mind am like what? At what age? Would you marry your mum?
75% of the people I know that have strict mums do the worst things! It's not their fault tbh, it's because they don't really have someone to explain to, I am forever thankful for my mum. She doesn't even fancy somethings but I can genuinely talk to her about any man because she wouldn't be judging me because am opening up to her. Mothers should please try to be free, all this things that you don't want to say to your daughters, they would learn it faster from the outer world and it would almost destroy some of them. How would somebody be in high school, about to graduate and you wouldn't know anything about sex? Lol! Are you joking? ..Some of them know even more than their parents lol! Its amazing because some mothers are trying to teach their daughters but you are doing it the wrong way, 14/15 is not too early to start talking to your daughters about sex etc even if they don't talk to you about it, but you as a mother you are doing your path. Don't let someone teach you daughter because you just believe she's too young to know, this days people are 12/13 and they know different sexual stuff, it's amazing , the world has changed but don't let it affect you.
I understand that some women were raised by strict mothers too so that's probably why they are strict, being strict is a good thing to be honest, but there's a way to balance being strict and being free with your kids. Some women are way too strict.
Have time for your daughters, observe them and try to talk to them about things, advice them about boys even if they wouldn't tell you about their relationship, but you aren't deceiving your self that they don't know it. I look at some of my friends mum and am just amazed lol! They don't know anything. No one is a saint but they are way too strict and it's affecting their daughters so much, I pray for us that would just be mothers anytime soon, may God keep guiding us and help us train our daughters well. Being a strict mum doesn't mean your child wouldn't be loose, because " I would still do what is in my mind anayway, no one can see me" so you could as well talk to them about it than hearing all they've done later in future and now regretting .
May God help us! Please read and share! Thanks!
DamStar🌟💫✨
I can testify to having a strict mom. Indeed strict mom's do deprive their children of finding a friend in their mothers... It took me 3 years to tell my mom about my relationship and it has always been hard yo sit and talk to her about anything because the fear of rejection and comments that would not sit well at heart.
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Thanks DamStar
I have a strict mum but she has changed now,cos it made me closer to my late father,God bless his soul..i can tell him anything even boys issue.it was after he died that my mum realised that she has to calm down..but we are good now though.just like zee said,there should be limit to being strict.
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