Thank You❤️. Today's topic - My personal space ..

Thanks to everyone that checked my blog yesterday and to those that commented and to those that messaged me privately 👍 I appreciate the love, May God reward everyoneof us IJN❤️. 

It was a very awesome thing for me, I didn't tell my siblings or anyone when I opened it over night, their reaction when I woke up was awesome, it shows that any little thing I do they are ready to support me since they know writing is part of my dream as a young lady. They sent it to all their friends, I got views from weird countries that I don't even know people there. Also my mum called me when I woke up and said, OMG it's so lovely, have sent it to over 90 of my friends, they love it soooo much, she said "Damilola, I know you would be great, watch it and take it step by step and you would see what am saying". I believe you momma😎, Thanks for having my back! 

So people asked me so many questions like can they share their own story or if they have a write up or something, well YES.. You can send it to me and I would put it up for you and if I have anythingg to  say I would add to it, you can send it to ( damstarstudio@gmail.com) . 

People also asked me if I would be blogging often, well NO☺️. Because of when I get back to school and all so probably just like 3 times a week. Still trying to figure out the 3 days so everyone would know the particular day to look up for a new story. When I decide I would put it up..  my plan is 3 times a week but If I have more time, I defintely will. 

  

ABOUT TODAY- MY PERSONAL SPACE

Sooooooo.. Back to today's issue, its about me and me and me! #Dami..

When I first went to school in America in 2012, at first I used to live with one of my aunts, she was very friendly and always wanting people around, and due to the fact that she had all boys, me coming as a girl was very awesome for her, when I arrived she had bought me so much clothes for the cold season, shoes, socks and all, I called my mum when I woke up later in the day I said mummy this woman is awesome, I like her.. She was like yeah that's how she is blah blah.. My mum is the only person that understands me well after my siblings then my awesome big mummy K in America :) #LoveHerToTheBone #LikeMyOwn .. 

So Fast forward to few weeks later I started noticing that she always wanted me to be downstairs with her, my room was so far and I used to close the door so I never even know at times when she's in the kitchen till she comes to call me. She started complaining that why don't i use to come downstairs to talk to people and play and all and even watch tv? Why do I just like my space and stay on the same spot and just watch movies or use my phone and also why can't I do my homeworks downstairs? 

I started seeing that this woman is someone like my dad that likes when people are always around them and talking and playing and me on The other hand I love to talk and play but my mood swing Lmao, it's too bad.. When people see me on snapchat, instagram they would say ah omo Ti tan! Very cheerful well that's only when am in the mood, when am nt in the mood I expect people to just let me be but then she started complaining from there, my uncle and aunt were there at that point, they kinda understood me, but still they advised I go downstairs once in a while when I get back from school, I tried but it wasn't just working out because I wouldn't be smiling it would be like they are forcing me to do what I don't wanna do. 

When she's going out she would come and say dami lets go and am like am sorry ma, I don't feel like going at that point again it's another issue, because I HATE going out Lmao! Yes! Am very boring inside, if my friends come I would like to stay with them and gist inside instead of going out and all, I don't really fancy it which is very and because I appear to be unfriendly which is not true, but am changing small small because living with people, you have to dance to their tune. 

So in the process I didn't know Mummy K and her family from any where, my aunt probably complained to her about my attitude so she said I should come over, Mummy K's last daughter should be about 22 now or more to tell you how old the first child is and they are 4, a boy and 3 girls. This people accepted me like their own, mummy would come upstairs to my room to talk to me, dami its summer, it's too hot come down, if I feel like, I would go since I would always find someone to laugh with, her daughters do hair and makeup so I just go down to their shop and stare like they say lol, my fav is the second, I love her!! She wasn't always around, she only use to come like once in a blue moon, so when she first came, she came and said am going somewhere do you mind to come with me? ( she did her high school in Nigeria so she kinda understood me more than others, others were always busy but they still talk to me well), the way she would even ask, I would feel like yes! My new friend lol and she is far far older than me, her mum and sisters would be like dami Ke!! She wouldn't go, she wouldn't leave that room, I said I would go, see the way they were suprised and happy, that's how I started changing, I used to follow her out everytime when she comes around, everyone knew she was my favorite even till now ❤️. And also there was another young lady and her brother also living with mummy k, myself and angel used to stay in the the same room, I used to tell her things, she had lived with people too so she understood what I was saying, lol she told me part of her own story too, the thing is that people just complain too much when you live with them except mummy k tho :).

This is me and mummy k :).

Why did I bring mummy k up? Because she knows how to manage people with issues, you don't always have to shout at people to change them, advisingand doing   things they like would even make them change. Before she gets back from work, I would make sure have cooked, for all of them including my awesome daddy K, they would eat and their kids too would bring their friends over 💃, everyone would enjoy! If I like you Ehn I would be able to go to any length for you. Even if am tired I would still cook for mummy k! She sees me like her own, she doesn't complain so much and make me feel like the worst child on earth when others are even worse.. Part of the people that changed me today Mummy K is number one! That's why I can't forget her❤️😎.

My dad  is a very jovial person, so he has issues with me not socializing.. being able to live with my siblings for over 19 years and my mum, they understand that when am not in the mood they should leave me but to others i appear as very rude at times or saucy which am not. When I get in the mood, people around me laugh a lot because they tend to say I do/say funny things ;) and I play and laugh so much  .. I don't know when I even do most of those things people say I do when am not in the mood like rolling my eyes, raising my face up.. it just comes and then my aunt comes around to ask what happened to you? What do you want? At that point I just start laughing like I don't want anything!! I just wanna be alone .. Why is staying alone a problem? At least for a while? I dunno how else to explain that me not talking doesn't mean anything is wrong, at times I just need my personal space thats one of the reasons I hardly get along with people that are always playing, some people don't even think, they just wanna play 😒, I feel everyone has their own cross, to me this looks like part of my cross because you need to see people complaining about it 😑 but I know that nothing is wrong, tho am already changing now at least I go out small small Lool, and I don't over stay in the room, so with time I hope to be a better person but I know am not the only one going through this phase, if we are in the same condition.. I feel we should learn to manage it well so we don't hurt people that love us because it can make them run away lol, they would think you are always moody because you did something bad sometime ago meanwhile you are just chilling thinking of how to make millions like my dorodiva :).